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Things that Make Me Thankful or Why the Church is a Success

    94788480_BQHc6mo1 If you read my previous post, you know some issues that I have with churches. However, a truly honest discussion of the church must describe the positive attributes as well. I belong to a fairly large church, Crossroads Christian Church in Lexington, Kentucky. Earlier in my life, I would have driven by it, and asked why they need that large of a church. Well, after attending for a few weeks, I saw how the building was utilized. I have to say, it was quite impressive. For example, there are no pews in the church. We sit in moveable, plastic chairs that are taken up after service to reveal a gym floor. The gym is used for church basketball and other athletic functions. There are modest offices for church staff and kitchen areas. There are also several rooms for the Kid’s Ministry. I could continue, but the bottom line is the space is used effectively. Now, I wonder how many times that I have wrongly accused churches of being wasteful when they were actually using their large buildings very efficiently. 

     I still feel like churches, in general, try to get into their members pockets a little too much. But at least  my church has also found a way do it more tastefully. For example, before taking up an offering, a staff member tells the audience that offering is for regular members. He also tells them that if they are new or just checking the place out, then there is no absolutely no obligation to give. Also, I have never heard any member say, “Give to the Lord”. My church has even tackled the “big silver tray” issue that I talked about in my previous post. Instead of a tray, they pass around a bag that no one can see through. It is kind of like the bag that The Price is Right uses on the three strikes game. People can tell if someone gave money, but they cannot tell how much he/she gave. Anonymous church giving: what a great idea!  

     Besides money issues, I also had problems with hypocrisy within the church or to put it bluntly: talking the talk without walking the walk. I will always think that church members should do a better job practicing what they preach. However, before regularly attending church, my standards regarding hypocrisy were simply too high. I wanted church goers to be shining examples of righteousness. While idealistic, it is simply not practical. A Christian church is not full of righteous people, it is a church full of normal, everyday people who are merely forgiven. They still do bad things sometimes, and they will continue. They should strive to do better, but they will always, always stumble. As Joyce Meyer put it, living a Godly life is like getting a new coat that is too big for you. It is a beautiful coat, but you have to grow into it. A lot of Christians clearly have not grown into their coats (myself included) and maybe never will 🙂.  

Therefore, though ironic and somewhat comical, here is my advice to people who are seeking God: don’t let churches and Christians keep you from going to church.  Explore several churches before becoming a member. A main selling point for me was an outward focus. I wanted a church that was active in the community. Find out what your selling points are, and try to find a church that supports those points.

Three Things that Ticked Me Off or Why Churches fail to Reach People

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I can remember only a few years ago sitting on my couch with my remote in hand. I was flipping through the channels aimlessly, when I landed on a television evangelist show. I cannot remember which show I was watching, but I remember being thoroughly disgusted. In retrospect, most of my disgust was unfounded, but not all of it.

At that point in my life, I considered myself a believer in God and a believer in Jesus, though I barely read the Bible. I thought religion should be a private matter between God and the individual. I did not want the “Christian” label, and the thought of going to church repulsed me. I needed a closer relationship with God. I also needed a church to help me grow in that capacity. However, despite churches on every street corner and the myriad of late-night television evangelists, the church was simply not reaching me.

I take quite a bit of the blame because I was stubborn and close-minded. However, the church also failed for several reasons. Most of the reasons revolved around 1) money, 2) hypocrisy, and 3) scandals. Money has always been a tricky issue for churches. There are very legitimate reasons why churches need money: utilities, upkeep, etc.  There is a need and a Biblical precedent for giving money to the church.  However, to a non-believer or a seeker, the way that many churches (not all) fundraise is very offensive.  For example, the big, silver, offering tray that gets passed around in many churches is offensive. Everybody in the church knows when someone gives or does not give. Additionally, everybody can generally see how much someone gives as well. It is simply not very inviting to a new attendee.

Another thing that is not inviting to non-believers and seekers is the way churches are always collecting money for something. Often, that something is new church building. If a church cannot currently fill all of its seats, it does not need to spend thousands of dollars building a new one. When I was seeking, one of my gripes about churches was their lack of outward focus. Hungry, jobless, homeless people surround churches. Yet, instead of helping them, churches prefer to use their money to build bigger churches.  

The bigger church, in itself can also be offensive to seeker and non-believers. I often drove by “mega-churches” and asked, “Do they really need that large and that extravagant of a building?”. It looked wasteful to me. Again, I saw homelessness, disease, and despair. It just seemed like the money could have used to help people, not to construct a humongous building.

Another thing that turned me off the church was preachers who stood up during the offering and said, “Give to the Lord”. I understand now the offering is form of worship. However, I also understand that the Lord is the Creator of the Universe. He has no need for money.  The church has a need for money, and that is what church leaders should say, “Give to the Church”. Yet another thing that turned me off the church was preachers who stood up, saw a new face, and then asked that new face to give an autobiography in front of the entire congregation.  Now, I firmly believe that we should rejoice when a new person comes to church. However, I do not believe that preachers realize that many people have a fear of public speaking. New faces are often seekers and non-believers who are simply checking the place out. They want to remain anonymous. Asking them to introduce themselves will make them feel very uneasy, and it will make them less likely to return. 

Besides the money issue, hypocrisy and scandals gave me a negative image of the church. I define hypocrisy as “talking the talk, without walking the walk”. I readily admit, then and now, I am guilty of hypocrisy at some level. However, when I was seeking, and especially when I was seeking, I expected church leaders and church goers to practice what they were preaching.  I realize now that my expectations were too high. No religion will make someone perfect. However, I still believe that church leaders and church goers should hold themselves to higher standard. For instance, ask any waiter or waitress, what happens around 12:30 PM on Sundays in most restaurants. To say it nicely, his/her job gets harder. Many waiters/waitresses describe the church crowd in very unpleasant terms: rude, obnoxious, cheap tippers. How can churches expect to expand, when they simply do not set good examples?

While not setting a good example is definitely a form of hypocrisy, scandals may be hypocrisy in its purest form. Can anyone NOT recall at least one church scandal? Whether it is at the national level with a TV evangelist or at the local level with a pastor running off with someone’s wife, church scandals are everywhere. It is hard to get people to come to church, when the church’s image is being blasted with scandals. Again, no religion will make someone perfect, but church leaders and church goers should hold themselves to higher standard.

What do you think? Questions and comments are always welcomed and appreciated.