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Thanks, Mom and Dad

images I recently took a class called “How to Argue so Your Spouse Will Listen”.  Although revised somewhat by our local church, the material was written by Dr. Sharon Morris May. It is a superb class with solid advice. During one portion of the class, I was asked to identify emotions that I felt as a child. The purpose of the exercise was to find any insecurities that may have originated during childhood, via my parents. There was a 23 item checklist of negative emotions that included some of the following 1) not seen, 2) no one will be there for me, 3) rejected, 4) not wanted or desired, 5) controlled, etc. Other people in my group were marking almost of the these negative emotions. I could not mark any, not even one.

Now, do not get me wrong. My parents will be the first to admit it. They were not perfect. In fact, they divorced when I was 18 years old. However, I have never, in my life, held any resentment towards them. They raised me the best way that they knew how. And I will always be grateful. I love you guys very much.

My Mom was fantastic. She kept the meals cooked and the house cleaned. In fact, everyday that I came home from school, she had something ready to eat. My Dad was great too. Even though he worked all the time while I was growing up, I never held it against him (in Eastern Kentucky, if you had a job at all, you felt lucky). He HAD to work all those hours. He worked so much, he asked my uncle to take me fishing one time. We went to the Dogwood Valley Pay Lake. We had a blast. As I got older, Dad’s work schedule got a little better. From 1986 until about 2008, Dad and I hunted together every deer season. I started hunting with my son in 2009 or Dad and I would still be hunting together.

I could write for days about my parents, but I want to be sensitive to people who did not have good parents. There are plenty of bad parents out there. Actually, I think there should be an application process to have a kid…… You know, the Bible promises us a just, loving, and wonderful heavenly father. I understand that, for some people, this is a hollow promise. Maybe your father was so bad that you do not want any part of another father. If that is true, I am very sorry. I know what it is like to have a good earthly father, and I can only imagine what my heavenly father is like.

Hold onto the hope of wonderful heavenly father, it will be worth the wait.  In fact, I will discuss attributes of our heavenly father in my next post.

Forgiveness or Freedom from Anger

imagesCAK7RPWOI am in a church huddle. A huddle is a tad smaller than a small group. Besides my wife and I, our huddle is comprised of five other couples. A few days ago, this question was asked to our huddle: What do you need to do in order to be a better disciple of Christ? I cannot recall precisely, but I think that I was the last person to answer the question. I was last to answer because I was somewhat embarrassed of my response. I said that I need to FORGIVE better. Considering that forgiveness is the fundamental principle of Jesus Christ, one would think that I had conquered it by now. One of my huddle members, who is also a really good friend, suggested that I write a blog post about forgiveness. So, here it goes.

I get angry quickly. Generally, the things I get angry over are things that happened in the past. They are things that I should have “put away”, so to speak. I found that I am good at deflecting problems, and I forgive on the surface. It is kind of like walking through the woods. I deflect the branches from the trees as I walk, but they do not go away. They simply spring back into place. Then I have to deflect the branches again when I return. 

In a nutshell, I am basically “deflecting” my problems and not “defeating” them. I am not really forgiving. I just put it out of head until a later date. Therefore, I get angry quickly over past wrongs. Some people “keep score”. They have an argument. They come to a resolution, but the next time they have an argument, they bring up wrongs from the first argument. These people probably have forgiveness issues as well.

So, where do people look for help with forgiveness issues? The best example comes from none other than the man, himself, J.C. After Jesus had been beaten and nailed to a stick, people were making fun of him. Not only the Roman soldiers, but even one of the thieves who was crucified with Jesus, was making fun of him. Jesus’ reply: FORGIVE them father, for they know not what they do. That, my friends, is hardcore forgiveness. Though I will strive for that standard, I will never achieve it. Nevertheless, there is help for people like me who are a little less perfect and struggle with forgiveness. It is called practice. It takes a lot of…..practice.

PS. There is also a great course called “Freedom in Christ”. I think step three is about forgiveness. I included a link. Many churches have included the course in their curriculum.

http://www.ficm.org.uk/the_fic_course

PSS. The picture is by Mike Joos. I saw seven in his set called, “Forgiveness”. They are hilarious. Check them out.

 

Who Am I? And What is My Purpose?

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Who am I? What is my purpose?

     When I hear these questions, it often conjures images of a teenage breakup, where one party says, “It’s not you; it’s me. I just need to go out and discover who I am”. Countless movies and tv shows have similar themes. And while we sometimes relate to it comically, the fact that the “who am I” question has ingrained itself into popular culture says much about its importance. Furthermore, these two questions are elementary to human existence. Nevertheless, somewhere between college, 60 hour a week jobs, and parenthood, I had forgotten to search for answers to these questions. I first heard the answers very early in my travels with JC (Jesus Christ-I prefer to call him by his initials because we’re close like that). I also have to confess that I scoffed at the answers the first time I heard them. However, as the years pass, the answers make more and more sense. So, enough with the suspense, here are the answers.

1) Who am I? I am a child of GOD, and so are You.

2) What is my purpose? MY purpose is to serve GOD, and so is Yours.

     When we answer the first question, the answer to the second question is easy. So, I will spend some time discussing the answer to the first question. The key to understanding what it means to be a child of God is equivalent to understanding our identity in Christ. Identity in Christ is a topic in many churches and blog sites. So, I am not trying to reinvent the wheel here, but I think it is vitally important to examine it to some extent. The following are a few of my favorite Bible verses that discuss our identity in Christ:

1 Peter 2:9
But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.

Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Ephesians 2:10
For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.

1 Samuel 16:7
But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”

Colossians 3:3-4
For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God. When Christ, who is your life, appears, then you also will appear with him in glory.

Ephesians 2:19
Consequently, you are no longer foreigners and aliens, but fellow citizens with God’s people and members of God’s household…

1 John 3:1
How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know him.

     Living into our identity in Christ is supposedly the turning point in our journey with God. I say “supposedly” only because I struggle with my identity, and I have not quite mastered the lesson yet. I, like other people, have many, competing identities. I have the identity of a husband. I have the identity of a parent. I have identity with my career and so forth. While the preceding are very important identities, my first and most important identity is supposed to be my identity in Christ. I have been told and promised, that if I make my identity in Christ the most important identity, the other identities will take care of themsleves. I have to admit. It is a struggle.

     In this world, we will also have our identity questioned. Even Jesus had his identity questioned. When Jesus was tempted by Satan in the desert, Satan said, “If you are the Son of God, tell this stone to become bread.” Then Satan led him to Jerusalem and had him stand on the highest point of the temple. He said, “If you are the Son of God, throw yourself down from here.” Both of those quotes, started with “If you are the son of God”. Basically, Satan was directly assaulting Jesus’ identity. He knew that if he could make Jesus doubt his identity, no good or very little good, could come from him. (Mike Breen, “Resisting Temptation”, Internet Article)

     So, be wary of direct assaults on your identity, and also be wary of competing identities. Put your identity in Christ above eveything else. 

 

Just a Regular Guy or A Story about Peter

10869144-fishermanPeter is without a doubt one of my favorite disciples. Peter was a fisherman, and that is one reason that I am drawn to him. Peter fished for a living, and I am sure that “fishing for a living” is much more stressful than the recreational fishing that I enjoy. Nevertheless, I suspect that on many days he sat out there in his boat, letting wind and the waves gently rock him. He paddled to his favorite fishing holes, threw out his nets, and waiting patiently to catch fish. If anyone has ever been fishing, one knows how much down time is involved. I am sure that there were times when he had no choice but to reflect on his life and to contemplate the meaning of his life.

Then one day, the unthinkable happened. A strange man met him on the lake and began to talk with him. He told him that he could take him to catch fish. I can only imagine what mood Peter displayed. Peter was as human as anyone. He had been fishing all day and caught nothing, which probably meant no money and no food. He was packing it up for the day and this strange man wants him to go back out. Personally, I would have been offended. Peter probably knew his fishing waters as well as anyone. If he could not catch fish, then there were no fish to be caught. He was tired and aggravated. We know from the Bible that Peter eventually lets the strange man, who turns out to be the son of the creator of the universe, into his boat. Peter catches boatloads of fish, and then he becomes one of the Bible’s central figures. I wonder, however, if Jesus had to convince Peter.

Now, I have to add a disclaimer. Even though I think that there was more to the story of Peter and Jesus’ first encounter, I am not trying to add or subtract anything from the Bible. The TRUE story is in the Book of Luke, Chapter 5. This is simply a comical story of how the conversation “might” have gone. Peter could have told Jesus to get lost. Jesus could have used his divine powers to force Peter, but God always gives us a choice. The conversation may have gone something like this:
“How you doing there?” Jesus said as he saw Peter untangling his net in his boat just a few feet offshore.

“Not bad. How about yourself?” replies Peter never looking up from his tangled mess.

“Do any good today?” Jesus said energetically. He did not need to be the Son of Man to read Peter’s body language. He already knew the answer.

Peter looked up and with a sarcastic half-smile answered shortly, “Nah.” Then he went back to untangling his nets.

“Well I know a place where you can catch as many fish as you want”, said Jesus with a ginormous smile on his face.

“Really”, responds Peter flatly as he rolls his eyes with unbelief, never looking up from his nets.

“All you have to do is take me out in your boat”, Jesus says with a smile, but also with a more matter-of-fact voice.

“Who is this weirdo?” Peter muffles under his breath. This weirdo is very inviting and non-threatening. The idea that this weirdo-stranger could rob or murder him never enters his mind. Peter thinks for second and then responds, “Okay big guy, show me the fish”. All the time, however, he is thinking that this is waste of time. Nevertheless, Peter has enough pride to want to prove the weirdo wrong.

Peter paddles toward the bank to pick up Jesus, but Jesus walks out into the water to meet him. Peter helps him into the boat and asks condescendingly, “Where should we go, my fine fisherman?”

Jesus nearly laughs, but restrains himself to a light snicker. Then he completely composes himself, and answers, “Over there, around that point”. A point is a piece of land that protrudes into the water, much like a small peninsula.

Over there, around that point was almost all the way across the lake. Peter says harshly, “If you want to go way over there to catch fish, you’ll have to help me paddle”. Peter wanted to prove this guy wrong, but he did not want to paddle that far to do it. Furthermore, he knew that he and every other fisherman on the lake, had already fished that point. There were simply no fish to be caught over there.

Jesus paddled halfway across and Peter says, “okay, my turn”, but Jesus grins and keeps paddling. When they arrive at the point, Peter says smugly, “I’ve already fished this. And so has everyone else.”

Jesus then says a little short of breath, “Alright, throw it out”.

“No”.

“Oh come on. We paddled all the way out here so you could prove me wrong, and now you won’t do it”. Jesus pauses for a moment and exclaims, “Look, I see a fish!”

Peter excitedly looks over the boat into the water, and Jesus says humorously, “Okay, I was just joking. I didn’t see a fish, but I know they’re there”.

Peter gives Jesus the stupid look. Then he puts one of his hands on his hip, looks down, shakes his head, and realizes that Jesus’ joke was funny. He releases a light chuckle, picks up his net, and throws it over the boat, thinking, “I can’t believe I got talked into this.”

Peter’s first encounter with Jesus provides insight for seekers and seasoned Christ followers. I think that God wants us to leap into a relationship with him. He wants us to jump at opportunities to serve him. That is why it is commonly called a “leap of faith”. Peter had doubts. Especially in the world of special effects and youtube, we will have doubts, too. There are so many things in the modern world that are fake. It is difficult to genuinely believe in anything. God understands. He would rather you leap, but he will also honor small steps in the right direction. A small step is relative to where a person is spiritually. A small step for one person may be volunteering to teach Sunday School. A small step for someone else may be to simply open his/her mind at the possibility that God exists. Peter made a small step by letting Jesus into his boat, and the rest is history.